The Book

My book, Out From Under: The Impact of Homosexual Parenting will be released soon. Like most new authors, there is a range of feelings I'm going through. Up to now, I've not shared my full story in any media interview or speaking engagement, tending to soften the blow as it were so the listeners weren't overwhelmed or simply teased. Most autobiographies have in them as much truth as one was comfortable in sharing at the time. However, I do want to gently mention a few different editing techniques and offer some advice to those adult children who are thinking about writing their stories.

First, often for many authors, his/her book is transitioned into a clean swept piece with nicely placed Band Aids over areas that were excruciatingly more painful to experience then the author dares to write. Thankfully, I missed that level of padding.

Second, I discovered that there was another procedure of sugar coating the less savory aspects of one's story so as to not offend the prudent reader. Yes, it is far less disturbing, but you are left a bit jilted rather than experiencing the whole jarring effect. If you really want to be real, then avoid sweetening up the less delightful aspects of your story.

Last, is the decision to not mention areas that are left unfinished as it were. For me, not knowing the outcome is terribly frustrating. What I've chosen to do in my book is mention the unresolved issues, the unanswered questions, and the gray areas - not because it is easy to do - but to let other people understand that life keeps unfolding with new surprizes, hopes, and desires which we were not privy to before. And with these, also come answers to some of our questions.

My story delivers a provocative, gripping, no-holds-barred account of what it was like to grow up within a homosexual environment.

You will be able to order a copy of my book soon.

Our Stories

I've noticed that our stories make a lot of difference to other people who don't understand what we have lived through. Over the weekend, a woman surprizingly commented to me that she had never actually thought about children and what it was like for them to grow up with a parent who is involved in homosexual relationships. So our stories enlighten others. I'd like to encourage more of you to share. Not only is it healing, you bring your own thoughts and feelings forward where others can begin to understand and care more about how children deal with a "gay" parent...For many of us, we have to take back the words gay & rainbow, the color lavender, the butterfly, and other symbols which have been usurped from their original meanings. We do this by telling it like it was and is.

From my heart, I welcome you on this journey.